How do I know if the kind of foreplay we’re trying is right?
Does it feel good to you?  To your partner?  Some time when you’re not having sex or about to have sex, let your partner know that you’d like to talk about your sex life.   Specifically, say you’re curious about what types of foreplay your partner likes: Kissing? Massage? Oral sex? Toys? Additional clues can be found by paying close attention to how your partner responds during sexual play. Does he or she moan with pleasure more often when
you’re engaged in certain types of foreplay?

Can foreplay make it easier for a woman to orgasm?
Yes, yes and heck ya! Although not all women orgasm during intercourse, those that do often find that spending time in sexually exciting and arousing types of foreplay can make it easier for them to orgasm during intercourse. Some even find that spending more time in foreplay, building arousal, can make it easier for them to have multiple orgasms during sex.  Although having an orgasm can be a lot of fun and quite satisfying, try to not focus too much on it as a goal. Rather, try to focus on pleasure and enjoyment as part of the sexual experience.

Try  This:

• Kiss with your clothes on for at least 10 or 20 minutes or until you both feel extremely turned on.

• Lie in bed and talk for 30 minutes to an hour, with your clothes on, and kiss each other every now and then on the  forehead, lips, cheeks or neck.

• Dance together in the kitchen.

• Use a vibrator on low speed on the inner thighs and lower stomach

• Use a massage cream to  massage each other’s back, legs or feet (note: if you are using latex condoms, avoid oil-based massage products; the residue on your hands could cause the condoms to break).

• Use a flavored product like Dust Me Pinkin five places on your body. Have your partner locate them with his/her tongue.

• Take turns reading a favorite passage from Tickle His Pickle or Tickle Your Fancy to each other.

Even for partners who frequently partake, phone sex is often difficult for even the most adventurous couples to initiate at first — and often gets easier with practice. This makes sense since sex usually involves at least two people touching each other in some way: hugging, kissing, caressing, inserting, receiving, and so on. Then there’s the eye contact, absent during phone sex unless you’ve got a web cam, in which case you’re technically having web sex, not phone sex.  I digress, most phone use is nonsexual so it’s no wonder you feel shy about -ahem -pushing the hot buttons.

If you feeling embarrassed about bringing it up, just start by telling your S.O. how much you miss them, how much you wish they were with you. It might help to close your eyes and imagine that the other is right there next to you. Turn off the lights, put on some sexy music – create an environment that sets the mood, which could even mean getting naked. And while you’re both at it, you could also prep for the call by getting in touch with yourself. A little pre-call foreplay might make it feel more natural to start the sexual connection on the phone because it would really be a continuation of what’s already begun.

Now that you’re in the mood, here are some words that might get him/her ready to go:

• “What are you wearing… or not wearing?”
• “Your voice makes me __________.”
• “I love when you put your __________ on/in my __________. ”
• “The next time I see you, I’m going to __________.”

If you’re more a Telephone Type A than Type X-Rated, you can make a phone sex date so that both of you know the general plan, and might think ahead of time about what you can do when you answer or make the call(s).