Phone sex can make us giggle, but it’s no laughing matter to many couples who, for job, school, military, and/or other reasons, can’t be intimate in person. Gettin’ down on the telly can be a relationship-saver.
Even for partners who frequently partake, phone sex is often difficult for even the most adventurous couples to initiate at first — and often gets easier with practice. This makes sense since sex usually involves at least two people touching each other in some way: hugging, kissing, caressing, inserting, receiving, and so on. Then there’s the eye contact, absent during phone sex unless you’ve got a web cam, in which case you’re technically having web sex, not phone sex. I digress, most phone use is nonsexual so it’s no wonder you feel shy about -ahem -pushing the hot buttons.
If you feeling embarrassed about bringing it up, just start by telling your S.O. how much you miss them, how much you wish they were with you. It might help to close your eyes and imagine that the other is right there next to you. Turn off the lights, put on some sexy music – create an environment that sets the mood, which could even mean getting naked. And while you’re both at it, you could also prep for the call by getting in touch with yourself. A little pre-call foreplay might make it feel more natural to start the sexual connection on the phone because it would really be a continuation of what’s already begun.
Now that you’re in the mood, here are some words that might get him/her ready to go:
- “What are you wearing… or not wearing?”
- “Your voice makes me __________.”
- “I love when you put your __________ on/in my __________. ”
- “The next time I see you, I’m going to __________.”
If you’re more a Telephone Type A than Type X-Rated, you can make a phone sex date so that both of you know the general plan, and might think ahead of time about what you can do when you answer or make the call(s).