If your erotic life has gone from a sex fest to a snooze fest, you are not alone. While chronic aversion to sex is a serious issue, an occasional drop in your sex drive is perfectly normal.
According to a 1994 University of Chicago National Health and Social Life Survey, lack of interest in sex was the number one complaint of sexually active women of all ages. The reasons for a lowered sex drive can vary from person to person, but the following are the most common reasons:
Stress Stressful situations suck the sexual energy right out of you. Solution – try a massage as foreplay, it will help loosen you up and turn on the sexual feeling you’ve been pushing back.
Illness Snot and kleenex aren’t too sexy so just wait this one out. Your libido will come back when your fever goes down. But more serious illnesses such as hypothyroidism, diabetes, cancer, heart and lung disorders, and STIs may also be responsible for the drop in your sex drive. If you suspect something more serious, make an appointment with your medical professional.
Medication Many prescription and over-the-counter drugs can decrease your sexual appetite. Antidepressants, medication for hypertension, psychotropic drugs, sedatives, opiates and even birth control pills can lessen your interest in sex or make reaching orgasm difficult. Solution – try increasing the amount of foreplay in your routine or using an arousal cream to increase blood flow to the clitoris (available at www.katiethepureromancelady.com of course)
Lifestyle Lifestyle changes are yet another form of stress, and even if they are positive ones, they can sometimes adversely affect your sex life. Moving, changing jobs, make ups, break ups, babies and more can zap your lovin’ meter. Solution – try a foreplay game reconnect and focus on your sex life for an hour or so.
Aging While some studies have revealed that sexual responsiveness may get better with age, hormonal imbalances in perimenopausal and menopausal women lead to a diminished sex drive. Some women may experience an aversion to touch, and intercourse may be painful due to vaginal dryness caused by a drop in estrogen. Solution – using a water based lubricant and a vaginal moisturizer can greatly increase the pleasurable feeling of sexual activity.
Relationship Blues Temporary disinterest in your partner is normal. But if you’re finding sexual desire is grounded for an extended period of time, it could be tied to relationship issues. If there’s tension or unhappiness in your relationship, it will eventually show up in your sex life. Solution – you have got to get to the root issue before I can fix you with toys. If boredom is problem, however, well I’ve got a few things for you…
Body ImageLearning to love your body is probably one of the greatest hurdles to developing a strong sense of sexuality. If you feel uncomfortable with your physical self, you may hide your body from your partner, which can lead to a slow down in sexual activity. Solution – figure out what it is about yourself that your partner loves. If he climbing the walls just seeing you touch yourself, make that the focus of your arousal.
Depression If you are depressed, sex will not be at the top of your agenda. Everyone experiences a bad day or two, but if those weeks turn into months, your depressed state will put your sexual interest on hold. Seek advice from your medical professional if your depression last more than a week or two.
Drugs and Alcohol Excessive consumption of drugs and/or alcohol may increase the quantity of your sexual encounters, but in the long run it can take its toll on your sex drive. Be aware if your drop in libido seems to correlate to an increase in alcohol or drug consumption. The solution is pretty simple on this one, slow it down cowgirl/boy. Bonus – you’ll remember the boots your knockin’
In addition,a healthy diet, the right amount of exercise and a daily dose of fresh air can help whet your sexual appetite. Allowing yourself to explore a new erotic desire or fantasy can spark new found interest in sex.
Sexual disinterest that stems from a physical problem, such as a hormone imbalance, or depression, may need to be treated with medication. Contact your healthcare provider for an exam and consultation.
For a personal consultation or girl’s night, give me a shout – I’m happy to help get your sex life back on the right page.